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Words of Wisdom: Merlin Mann, via Kung Fu Grippie.

In Quote, Social Style on July 30, 2010 at 4:09 pm

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I’m a huge fan of the work of Merlin Mann (of 43 Folders & You Look Nice Today Fame) on so men levels.  Today I read a post from one of his blogs called Kung Fu Grippie, and I thought “HOT SHIT AND HAPPY DAMN!  That is a great way to explain something that is soooo complex…”

This is what I saw:

 

So, Tim Kazurinsky does an improv scene in a workshop led by Del Close. Del tells him to do the scene as an ogre. Kazurinsky’s stuck:

[Kazurinsky] said, “Damnit, Del, I just don’t have it in me to be an ogre.”

And Del said, “Damnit, do you think ogres are born? Ogres think they’ve been hurt worse than anybody else. So you don’t play the hatred. You play the hurt.”

And I just sat there and thought, “Oh, my God, I think I’ve just learned something about life.”

So great on so many levels.

Seriously.  How awesome is that? 

It is really what I was talking about here when I wrote about how I think people should respond to rude behavior with class and style.  Mr. Mann’s example is a really great way to illustrate what I was attempting to get at.

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Words of Wisdom: Ryan Holiday via ryanholiday.net

In Quote, Social Style on July 29, 2010 at 12:27 pm

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Today I was going through some of RSS feeds that I read, and I happened onto a post by Ryan Holiday about rudeness.   The post states…

Try not to get upset by people’s rudeness. Notice: how it never seems to come from someone who has ‘earned’ the right to be rude. In other words, this attitude (or stupidity) has not served them well. It has held them back and punished them. So you pity it, place it properly in context with the costs, or pretend not to care but don’t feel resentment if you can help it. Because they’ve borne more of the burden than you.

I believe there is lots of wisdom in this short but eloquent post.

I’d like to add my own thoughts to this.

(1) Anyone can be rude.  It is part of living in an open society that values free speech.

(2) Anyone can be rude to someone who was rude to them first.

(3) It takes some real class, and dare I say style, to be kind to someone who is rude.

I’m not saying that people should just look the other way whenever someone is rude.  There comes a point when you need to take a stand absurd and inappropriate behavior.

The trick is to take that stand in such a way that you respect the dignity of the rude person while letting them know that you disapprove of, and will not stand for, their rude behavior.  Doing that is showing that you have grace, tact, class, and style.

Put Another Way:

We teach by example all the time.  Even when we don’t intend to do so.

If we stoop to a level of rudeness (even as a response to rudeness) we teach something.

If we elevate our behavior by respecting the dignity of someone who has behaved in a way which is rude we teach a very different something.

One is clearly better.

Words of Wisdom: Jesse Thorn, via Put This On.

In Publications, Quote on July 24, 2010 at 1:47 am

I’m a big fan of the fashion blog Put This On, which is done by Jesse Thorn (of “The Sound of Young America” fame) and Adam Lisagor (of “You Look Nice Today” fame).

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Yesterday Mr. Thorn wrote a very short, simple, yet very effective post, which stated:

To some, this may be self evident, but there is a noteworthy difference between dressing up and dressing well. Do not confuse the two. We are always dressing for a situation. Dressing is always a social act. It is just as possible to dress too formally as it is to dress too informally. An elegant man needn’t dress like everyone else, but he should always dress with the situation in mind.

I can’t agree with Mr. Thorn more, and I’m rather jealous of his ability to eloquently craft words into meaningful blog posts.

If you don’t  read Put This On you really should.